Introduction

Adoption is a legal procedure which means you will become part of a new family, called an adoptive family. Usually, adoption happens because you can’t live with your birth family. There are lots of reasons why you might not be able to live with your birth family; it might be that they find it hard to look after you properly and keep you safe.

If you’re not able to live with your birth family, a judge will decide whether you should be placed for adoption. The judge will listen to your parents, your social worker, and your children’s guardian before making a decision.

How long will it take to find an adoptive family?

Finding an adoptive family that is right for you may take a while, so it is unlikely to be a quick process. The process may take as little as a few months to a few years.

It is the job of a social worker to find an adoptive family that is a good match for you. You will have a chance to meet your adoptive family and get to know them before you move in.

What if I don’t want to be adopted?

You can speak to your social worker or children’s guardian. It’s their job to listen to you and tell the judge what you want. Although a decision might be made that you don’t agree with, it will be based on what’s in your best interests.

You may also have an advocate to help you express your wishes. An advocate is an adult who will talk with you and speak on your behalf.

Can I have contact with my birth family?

Letterbox contact is a way to stay in touch with your birth family by exchanging letters or photos. Talk to your social worker or advocate if you want to change how much contact you have with your birth family.

How will I find out information about my birth family?

You will receive a life story book which includes information about your history, birth family and life before you were adopted. When you turn 18, you can also find details about your birth family. For more information, see Adoption – finding birth parents and siblings.