Introduction

It is not always possible or safe for siblings in the care system to live together. Where siblings cannot be placed together, it’s important that siblings continue to have contact with one another. Children’s services are responsible for promoting contact between siblings as long as it’s safe to do so.

How can I have contact with my sibling?

You should talk to your social worker about your feelings about contact with your sibling. If you have an advocate, they may be able to speak to your social worker on your behalf.

Both you and your sibling should have a care plan. The care plan will explain what your needs are, how these needs will be met, and the general plan for your future. The care plan will also describe the contact arrangements with your family. You should be spoken to and listened to when the care plan is being written and when your plan is reviewed, so you should have a further opportunity to make your voice heard about having contact with your sibling. There is a specific requirement for the care plan to set out arrangements for promoting and maintaining contact with your siblings, so far as this is safe.

What can I do if I’m not happy with the contact arrangements?

You should speak to your Independent Reviewing Officer (IRO) if you are not satisfied with your level of contact with your sibling. The job of the IRO is to ensure your best interests are being met.

You can also complain to children’s services. You should ask your advocate for help with this. For more information, see our page on complaints to children’s services.

What kind of contact can I have?

Contact can be:

• Face-to-face
• Exchanging letters
• Speaking over the phone
• Sharing photos

If you live far away from your sibling, that does not mean you should not have contact. It just means there will need to be some careful planning.